Raising Cain or Raising Kids?

Raising Cain or Raising Kids

There are those parents that never had a moments concern, never had the slightest difference of opinion with or never received any push back or rebellion from their child.  I believe they are few and far between - but they do exist.  However, I can say with a fair amount of certainty that way more parents would agree - that raising kids can be trying.

They try our patience, they try our understanding, they try us physically, mentally and emotionally at times.  And yet...  Would you as a parent trade one moment of it?  Absolutely not!  Though trying, "parenting" is so ultimately rewarding.

- The child that was the most rebellious is now a stay at home dad and the epitome of a good father.  His children love and respect him as their dad.

- The child that was the most playful and slow to "grow up" - a mama's boy - was a marine and served our country overseas and is now a fireman saving lives and homes.

- The child that never got in trouble, was studious, kind of nerdy is now surrounded by true, loyal friends and is a successful CPA.

- The child that was a party animal - "borrowed" the car, snuck out at night - is now a responsible self-employed business owner.

When they were children - they acted like children.  And we - acted like parents!  Parents are not meant to be their child's friend.  Parents are meant to be parents...guiding, teaching, loving, disciplining - in order that the child will grow up to be a responsible, kind, contributing member of society.  That is the goal.  That for a parent is the reward.  Do parents make mistakes, of course. We are human, but you just be the best parent you know how.

Though children will try and test and push - I say - stay strong mom, stay strong dad.  Don't give in just because they have asked you 50 times - No should mean No!  You are the parent - what you say goes!  It's that simple. I'll tell you this - if no means no every time - they won't ask 50 times.   I know there are people that will disagree with this philosophy, but I've seen the difference in my classrooms.  And believe me when I say, there is a difference.  Children who are raised by "parents" are more respectful.  Children who are raised by "parents" are better behaved in the classroom.  Children who are raised by "parents" have better manners.  It's true!

Be your child's parent while they are growing up.  When they become an adult they will look to you as a parent and a friend.  That's the way life is meant to be.


"Train a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn from it."  Proverbs 22:6